Sacrifice your friends for numbers. Sacrifice your morals for numbers. Sacrifice your money for numbers. Because numbers mean you are special. At least that’s what some people think. They throw their friends to the wolves because all they see is numbers. They give, give, give, to the social media number makers, and expect to receive, receive, receive, from those who don’t have the TikTok or YouTube niche. They constantly ask for money, then give it to the number makers. They look down on those whose followers are not in the hundreds of thousands. It doesn’t even matter that those with lesser value have supported them and been their friend.
I see so many people give their all to the paranormal community and give every penny to it too, going broke traveling from convention to convention, paying for tables, paying for gas, paying for hotels, paying for merchandise, etc. And these people are expected to pay nonstop for their friends every whim project. But their friend is paying for numbers to succeed, willing to fly “the numbers” all over the country, willing to pay for “the numbers” every need because of well, numbers.
When you have two people telling you their soapbox sob story and they are identical, and you choose to help the one with numbers and expect the one without the numbers to give to you, what kind of person are you?
When you base your admiration for someone on numbers, you have lost the ability to see humanity. You have hurt your friends. You have severed relationships. You have lost all credibility and respect. You have decided that rolling numbers are more important than people. Eventually that mindset will return karmatically.
When it comes to the paranormal, numbers don’t count. Numbers of investigations under your belt don’t matter. Numbers of years in the field don’t really matter either. Numbers of followers, viewers, and likes don’t matter. In the paranormal, it’s about quality not quantity and SO many have forgotten that. The dead don’t care how many followers you have. They don’t care that you’ve done 250 investigations in a year, or a live every day. They don’t care about numbers. They don’t care about time. They don’t talk to someone after checking to make sure their TikTok has enough followers, or their YouTube has enough subscribers. Sure, a high number of people on your page is cool to have, but not even Zak Bagans million plus followers communicate, watch, or buy. Maybe a couple hundred actually participate. It’s the same with every social media account holder and we all know it.
Numbers are numbers, people are people, friends are friends. When numbers trump people and friends, the person counting needs to reevaluate not only their priorities but their heart as well. Numbers only get you so far. When numbers turn into a priority, supporters start to leave. Those who have bought, donated, shared and liked everything from the beginning, start disappearing. That disappearance leaves you with a bunch of people who really don’t give a damn. If quantity is top on your list ask yourself, is the emptiness of digits worth it? Is putting your all into someone just because of their numbers, worth losing the supporters who helped you, gave to you, bent over backwards for you, and made you? I would say no. I personally would rather have the warmth of those who are willing to care, then an empty fame with the cold touch of numbers. But that’s just me. If you choose quantity over quality, and 15 minutes of fame is all you want, go ahead, enjoy the loneliness of the number lust.
One of the most jaw dropping things I’ve heard during my paranormal journey is that investigators with physical ailments are a liability. WHAT? Oh yeah, you read that right! I have read interviews about casting shows, I have sat through conversations biting my tongue, and I have seen great investigators fear their injury or illness getting out and losing everything. To put it bluntly, that really pisses me off! Being in the public eye and having some stuff going on inside of me, I can tell you quite honestly, I am no liability!
We are being looked at like weaklings and damsels in distress, who may need the big tough healthy investigator to come to our rescue and save us. Ok, look here buddy! I am no damsel either! Show of hands, who read “Dark Side of the Apple”? Yeah, that’s my story and some of these people judging our abilities as investigators were some of the people I asked for help, and they looked the other way. That left little old frail me and my even frailer mom to go toe to toe with some pretty wicked negativity. This damsel is a warrioress who needs no saving. What I, and every other investigator that’s guilty of being a human being needs is to be treated equally and those we investigate with to have the team mentality.
Now let me tell you why we don’t need to be pampered, left out, looked at differently, or seen as a liability.
One, because many of these ailments came about after we started investigating. They were all in there brewing and we had no clue until one day, boom, there they are. Guess what, you probably have things brewing in you too that you don’t know. Just because an illness isn’t known by you, doesn’t mean its not known by them…
Two, for those that were born with an ailment, this is all they know. Because their body doesn’t work like yours, does not mean they are weaker! These People have adapted ways and techniques that the “normal” investigators haven’t thought of.
As for me, I know my body. I’m very attuned to the things happening to me. Because I am so attuned, I notice differences that a sneaky otherworldly could be causing and I change the situation. I am no more of a liability than the investigator who just hasn’t discovered an ailment.
The point: it’s not your responsibility to play the hero or babysit the person with the “problem”. No one is any less capable of investigating than you are. As a matter of fact, we are dealing with a lot of shit and we still have the strength to get out there and face the dead. Don’t treat us like we’re weak. We are overcomers. We are badasses on the constant. 24/7 warriors. Don’t you worry about us.
I can’t tell you how many paranormal competitions I’ve been in over the years. I can’t tell you because I didn’t realize I was in them until they became obvious. Investigators waging silent wars against 2Realm for goodness knows what. One minute we’re friends and the next we’re backstabbed and somehow public enemy number 1. But why? Why are we competing in the paranormal?
Let’s face it, millions of people die every year, a lot of them become ghosts. So, there are plenty of lost or stuck souls out there just waiting to either ignore you, or give you a spooky night. If we’re competing for ghosts, then we all win.
Is it location? There are thousands of haunted pay to play locations all over the world. If money allows us, we all have equal opportunities to investigate each one of them. There are also plenty of residences and businesses looking for help. We each have just as much of a chance of investigating them. I would say when it comes to location it’s more jealousy than competition. I mean, I’m pretty jealous of everyone who has investigated the Queen Mary, but not because I’m competing. I’m envious because I haven’t made it out to California to do it yet. It’s more of a “OMG, you’re so lucky!” than a “I must take you down!” So, it can’t be location.
Could it be evidence? If that’s it, I have got some news for you. You have just as much chance of catching the holy grail of paranormal as a 5-year-old playing with their mom’s phone and snapping a photograph. It’s not a competition because you can’t make the spirits do what they don’t want to do. It’s about luck in this case. A ghost will speak and show themselves on their time, not ours, and there is no amount of competition that will change that reality. Your years in the field, your equipment, your techniques, don’t have anything to do with it. This is a person that either wants to communicate or doesn’t. Just like the living. Your energy may have a bit to do with it, so maybe stop competing and just communicate.
Is it possibly the fame game? Yeah, probably! Knowing the people so they will promote. Knowing the people so they will push you. Knowing the people so you can ride their coat tails to a….TV SHOW and be the next Zak!
I can just hear them now, pissed beyond belief, yelling at the computer screen that they do not want a TV show, they do not want to be anything like Zak! How dare I say this about them! Oh, my goodness the hate coming my way is fierce! But agree or disagree with him there is one thing he has that every investigator pushing the limits for views and likes wants. His popularity. And with the popularity comes the money. I have had investigators look me in the face and say they hate everything about him, and they would turn down a TV show. Next day they copy him and talk about how cool it would be to be on TV. It’s human nature to want to be liked, and it is obviously a necessity to need money.
The point I’m getting to is that the only place competition belongs in the paranormal is in the TV ratings. You and me, we have no reason to compete. You have no reason to keep with the next team. We are all looking for ghosts and there are plenty of them. 2Realm refuses to compete with anyone. We have no reason to wish you less. We want you to do good. If you do good, the research does good. WE ARE NOT DOING IT. No matter how many competitions we are unknowingly placed in, we will not do it! Unless of course our show comes through, then we’re taking that number 1 ratings spot from a certain demon magnet, LOL!
Just go be the best you. Compete with yourself to be better each day. Leave the competition for the networks.
Let’s get something straight, the paranormal field is not a prop for fame seekers! This has been driving me crazy for a while and I have to voice my feelings about it.
Let’s first explain what the field of paranormal is supposed to be.
Paranormal research was intended to find answers to afterlife questions. It was to understand ghosts. It grew into helping those with hauntings. It was to help. It was on its way to being a legitimate field of scientific study. Most of us who fought our way to credibility and no longer being considered insane, did so because we have a genuine interest in understanding why and how, or because we have had experiences. Those that are here for the research didn’t throw our names in the ring of public ridicule to be famous. We did it for much more, and if fame came from that for some, fantastic. Those famous people can use their names to help others understand. Some of my most respected friends are famous for their part in the field. No matter what, however, it’s supposed to be for answers. It’s serious with a side of fun and adventure.
And then there are the others.
There are times I feel like I’m watching a B movie, and my field of study is some ridiculous prop or punchline. I mean if you’re going to fiction up the research at least make the plotline good. There is no such thing as ethics when in comes to these “actors”. Morals went right out the door, along with the understanding that they are screwing with human souls and people’s lives. It’s all the fame game to these fakes. These are the kind of people who would see a person dying and grab the camera first to film themselves helping.
I will never forget watching an interview with one of these people and they were asked what their favorite piece of investigative equipment was. The answer was, “the thing that plays the radio and ghosts talk with it.” The host was stunned. The rest of the interview sounded about the same and this person politician-ed their way through every pseudo answer that made no sense. This person then went out later in the month and “investigated” in the name of fame, treating the whole place like a movie set and each lost soul like a prop. To say I was pissed off would be putting it mildly. To say I was heartbroken for the human spirits there, would be correct. This my friends, is not what the paranormal was intended to be.
Views, likes, subscriptions, etc. are great, but if that’s the only thing you are looking for, reevaluate. If these people you play with like props were alive, would you still do this nonsense? If not, then why are you doing it with the dead?
There is an entertainment point to this field that consists of TV, books, documentaries, merchandising, and pay to play. There are even movies. But we know these are entertaining with the truth. Every word in my books is truth, unless marketed otherwise. But to walk in a place claiming you are an investigator and then toy with souls, is horrid and immoral. You lied. Plain and simple, you claimed to be something you are not and toyed with the living too. Not to mention you unknowingly, (because you really don’t understand it,) put yourself and anyone with you in danger with your parlor tricks. Not every spirit is going to just go away from your horrible energy. There are those who will accept your challenge and make you regret walking through the door. And then there are those souls and not so human things that will make your life a living hell. And why? Because you wanted to play horror movie.
The moral of this is simple. You aren’t going into a place and playing with props like a haunted house attraction. These are real human souls. These are real demons and negative entities that will fight back. It’s not a movie. The blatant disrespect for the dead, the living, the history, and the field, are not ok. And unfortunately, being the good people we are, we‘re worried about your fakery getting you hurt or hurting others. But trust one thing para-actors, when you play with the props too much and they play back, you will learn your lesson. And while you cry in the corner having forgotten all about your fun, the real paranormal researchers will be the numbers on your speed dial.
Sometimes it’s downright depressing to turn on my social media. I’m overwhelmed with debates, arguments, slander, fakery, and competition. I’m bombarded by mislabeling. I’m angered by the childish petty insults and belittling. I could spend hours going off about all of the above and believe me I will get to all of it, but in this article, I’m covering the grown-up children who like to treat others shitty.
I don’t care what the subject matter is or how ridiculous the evidence presented is, there is NO reason to dumb down to bully behavior and tear some unsuspecting newbie a new one because you are bitter about whatever.
There was a time when you, (the gods and goddesses of the paranormal), didn’t know one single thing about what is being presented to you. So, your holier-than-thou(ness), time travel back to those days before you became everything to yourself. Go back to your very first dust bunny or pareidolia moment when you thought you had the most badass evidence ever and wanted to get opinions from your peers or so-called experts. You were so excited, you were eager to learn, you wanted to know everything you could about ghosts. You send that pic to someone with more time in the field and…they laugh. They call your pic stupid, fake, they make fun of you, they tear your confidence down, and treat you like you are just the dumbest person on the planet. They insult your very existence. You feel like you got punched in the gut and have no idea why. Your excitement is now dead. Your confidence just crossed the light, and you feel like it’s not coming back, EVER. Was that really necessary of them? I mean, you didn’t know. This was your first attempt. Hurts bad right? Yeah, it does. Kind of like a school yard bully beating you up and taking your lunch money. Complete humiliation!
How could this be handled differently by these grown-up bullies? Well, I’m no expert in the paranormal, because NO ONE IS! But I am an expert in being a decent human being. So, allow me a moment to educate your godliness.
None of us knew anything when we began our interest in the paranormal. NO ONE KNEW! Don’t lie and say you did. No one knew what the hell we were looking at when we examined our first piece of evidence from our first investigation. We learned from experience and from the veterans who learned the hard way. It is literally our duty as the more knowledgeable on the subject, to teach the newcomers what we know and to encourage them to learn more and continue that interest. Verbal destruction is not teaching! Being a sarcastic smartass isn’t teaching them either! What you should do is talk to them like an adult. Tell them why it’s mundane and how to know next time. Teach them! Be patient.
I have seen people leave the paranormal because of this little kid behavior. I’ve seen people refuse to ever ask a question or post for advice ever again because of this ridiculousness. What did you accomplish by being a dick to someone who just didn’t know? What kind of character have you now painted yourself as to everyone who read your attempt at humor or godliness? I know 4-year-olds with more maturity and etiquette. You call the people you put down stupid, but who looks like a horrible human being in this situation? Answer: YOU!
So dear wannabe experts and para-gods,
Grow up and get some manners. Your stupider than stupid, and meaner than mean comments have made us give more respect and belief to the newbies stuff than yours. I mean come on, anyone that acts like that clearly sucks at everything because look how much they suck as human beings.
To the newcomers, please don’t give these middle-aged brats a second thought. The rest of us want to teach you. We want to help you understand what you caught. We want you to be part of our community of adult investigators and researchers. We respect you. We want to know your story. We want you to help us find answers. We graduated with PhD’s in decency. The others are still falling off the jungle gym at recess. 2Realm will always be here to answer your questions and help you understand. You can count on us to reply to your inquiries with compassion and education. Welcome to the real paranormal community.
Para-brats, please leave. The adults are researching.
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